I have a confession to make: I’m fairly certain I’m addicted to your approval.
Over the years, I have found myself more and more concerned with how many social media likes and comments my posts get. It’s not uncommon for me to check my pages multiple times an hour to see if you like or comment on what I have posted.
There it is, I said it! I’m confessing my addiction to what you think, but I’m not going to stay this way! It’s not that I don’t appreciate your encouragement, in fact, I deeply appreciate it! It’s just that I want to enjoy your feedback but not NEED your feedback to feel better about myself. Make sense?
Yesterday, when I wrote and posted my blog post on passion, I felt God ask me if I wrote that to help others or to help myself get credit and positive feedback. My first response was “Of course it was for others!” However, as I reflected more, I realized that when I constantly go to social media and my blog to see how many people read it or like it, my writing becomes more and more about me than about others.
So, I decided to experiment with a detox for the day. I wouldn’t visit my blog admin page for comments or any social media platform to look for thumbs, hearts or comments until the end of the day. I would only check them once, before bed, to see if I needed to respond to anyone.
Now, this might sound funny, but it was really hard for me not to look at social media all day! In fact, for the first couple hours, I found myself wanting to go look several times to experience the satisfaction of others approval. However, it became easier as the day went on and even freeing to not be concerned about it.
If I had to write one line about what I am learning through this, it would be: “I need to use what I’ve been given to influence others and trust God, not others, to give me what I need in the process.”
I hope there’s something in this for you and thanks for caring!